Ein Paar therapiert Paare: Wie man eine gute Beziehung lebt
Maren Schürmann

Das Therapeutenpaar Sindy und Hans Steinmeier in ihrer Praxis. Hinter ihnen: Ein Schwarz-Weiß-Foto von Sigmund Freud sowie eine Buddha-Statue.
Foto: Fabian Strauch
Dortmund. Sindy und Hans Steinmeier leben und arbeiten zusammen. Bei Ehekrisen hören sie zu und helfen. Aber was machen sie, wenn es bei ihnen mal kracht?
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Therapie und Wartezeiten
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