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Mein Vater, der Hausmann: Wie Papa den Familienalltag stemmt

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Keine Sorge, Papa stemmt die Kinder schon – und den Rest auch! Hausmann Gerd Hubrich im Frühjahr 1994 mit Tochter Sarah und Sohn Fritz. 

Keine Sorge, Papa stemmt die Kinder schon – und den Rest auch! Hausmann Gerd Hubrich im Frühjahr 1994 mit Tochter Sarah und Sohn Fritz. 

Foto: Carola Wolny Hubrich / Privat

Bochum.  Mama Alleinverdienerin, Papa Hausmann: In nur zwei von 100 Familien ist das so aufgeteilt. Erinnerungen an eine ungewöhnlich normale Kindheit.

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Papa Hausmann, Mama Alleinverdienerin – für mich war das normal

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Mutter arbeitet Vollzeit, Vater Teilzeit – nur in zwei von 100 Familien

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Mein Vater machte seinen Job, und er machte ihn gut

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